Monday, February 10, 2014

Being Gay Today.

As I had said a while back, I wanted to share with you something that I think everyone would enjoy reading. It has to do with homosexuality and how we see it and how those that are in that lifestyle see it as well. We all have questions and thoughts on the subject of homosexuality and we all have our opinions and we like to make them known.

Now before I continue I want to say that before I interviewed this particular person, I had  preconceived thoughts and judgments on homosexuals. My view of them was not a pretty one and even less, a loving view. I had always been very quick to judge people that were apparently different than me in their way of life. Through time though I noticed that my view began to change. I was more aware of the fact that I needed to love more and hate less. Jesus said that the way that people would know who we are would be by the way we loved others and I sure wasn't loving anyone this way. My heart was more judgmental than I could afford. Some of you might think that I support homosexuality but that's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is that I want to love more and hate less. If anyone wants to judge their eternal fate or anyone else's then you can do that but I don't recommend it.

Okay, so the person I interviewed is someone that I know and had known for a long time and I never could have guessed that this person was gay. Fooled me! I asked a few questions that I personally wanted to know more about and how he thinks, feels, and sees the whole situation on homosexuality. Some of you might have questions that you want to know more about and I encourage you to let me know so I can ask him. He would be thrilled to answer your questions. Just don't ask for his name.

He goes by "Janus Polycephaly"

The Interview. 

1-When did you first realize or notice you had an attraction for the same sex? 
I first realized that I had an attraction to the same sex when I was in middle school. There was
clearly something different about me because every other guy I knew was checking out the
opposite sex as we all were hitting puberty. I on the other hand really didn’t see what all the fuss
was about. Granted around that period of time I seemed to notice which guys “looked” more
attractive than others to me. I figured it was just a phase and did not think much of it, I always
figured I wouldn’t even date till college since the majority of relationships that happen before
that part of your life will not last and are just a waste of time. I did not want to date for the sole
purpose of fitting in with everyone else.

2- Are you homosexual? 
Yes I would classify myself as a homosexual male. If I wasn’t I really don’t think I would be
answering this line of questions.

3- Do you think homosexuality is reversible as they say?
Everyone is different, we all have different experiences and a unique history so to say that
anything is “reversible” is out of my authority. First to use the word reversible implies that there
was an option to being with, as far back as I can remember I have always been attracted to men
not women. So what exactly would I be reversing? Last time I checked I was never tortured or
punished till I turned from straight to gay. So if I have been this way my entire life, what would I
revert back to? Now like I said earlier we all have a different and unique upbringing, so I am sure
there are others who somewhere along their timelines decided they were attracted to the same
gender. With that specific person I guess you could use the reversible idea, but as far as my
history goes there has never been any change to the direction the earth travels around the sun.

4.-Can you be a Christian and homosexual at the same time? 
Yes. If you are living in a homosexual relationship but claim to be Christian in a way you are
confessing and admitting the sin you struggle with the most. Everyone struggles with some form
of sin in their lives, I have yet to meet the person who doesn’t and like so many people in Church
most will never admit to that these struggles are. How many times at church at the end of the
service when the pastor opens up the stage for anyone who is needing prayer to step up…and
you look around and only see a few people walk up, normally the same people right? Even
though you and everyone else know there should be a 30 minute line just to get to the stage to
pray because we all have problems. Some of us are more aware of the problem existing while
others are in denial. So if being homosexual means you can’t be a Christian doesn’t that also
mean the people having pre-marital sex can’t be Christians either? How about the man cheating
on his wife, the drug addicts, the thief, the crook? Homosexuality is a sin just like every other
sin in the Bible. I believe that God views all sins equally disgusting from homosexuality to
premarital sex to murder. I feel that to God any sin is a sin; it is only us as humans who feel the
need to classify sins into categories or rankings. In the Old Testament God destroyed an entire
generation of people because they were worshiping a false god, he did not separate one sin
compared to another he simply destroyed them! Need I say more?

5-What does the Bible say about homosexuality and how do you feel about it? 
Well as I just said the Bible does list homosexuality as a sin, but it also lists plenty of other
things as sins. I feel that yes it is a sin, and just like every other sin it is something you have to
deal with on a daily basis. We all have sin in our lives, none of us are perfect and it the people
who act as if they are that cause so much judgment among others. I do think it is more of a
challenge to deal with simply because it has to deal with who you feel attracted to but in no way
am I claiming one person’s problems are harder or easier to deal with then another.

6-What does societies say about homosexuality? 
Society has become more accepting of homosexuality over the past few decades especially since
2000 when you have more celebrities or well-known people coming out of the closet. However
like any issue in the world today there are always people who are fighting for and against. That is
just how the world operates.

7-Do you think many Christians view homosexuals as worthy of God’s Love? 
I think that this again is going to vary based on individual experience and belief. I have spoken to
many Christians who believe as I said that homosexuality is just another sin like all others and
that everyone is worthy of God’s Love. I have seen the very conservative speakers on television
who condemn all gays to hell. Even though I recall in the Bible it says that we are not to judge
others because that is God’s job, we are not fit to judge others because we all are flawed.

 8-Are you openly gay or homosexual? 
I am not openly gay.

9-How many times do you think about the same sex? 
hahahaha, I honestly have no idea. How many times do YOU think about the opposite sex each

10. Do you think this type of parenting is morally right? 
I figure that there are plenty of really bad parents who are in a heterosexual relationship, at least
with a child who is adopted by a homosexual couple you know that they will be examined,
scrutinized, and put under such a microscope before the adoption goes through they clearly are at
least fit to raise a child. I do agree that it does become an issue when the child is older and people
question the same sex parents. But honestly I do not have any children and have no desire for
children so if you’re in a committed relationship and really want to raise a child go for it. Here is
another way to think of this if you think it is morally wrong to let a gay couple adopt a kid. Ask
yourself why the kid is up for adoption in the first place? How many children go up for adoption
because they are the result of an unplanned pregnancy between two unmarried people, which
means the couple had premarital sex which is a sin. So the child is a direct result of a sin. There
are plenty of people in the world who never wanted their kids so we might as well let someone
who wants a child adopt them. Why punish the kids more because we as a society cannot agree
on anything? If any straight or gay couple does a great job raising a child who are we to question

11-How many people know about your homosexuality? 
I have told so few people that I can count it on one hand. So between one to five total people.

12-Do you feel any conviction over the matter? 
Of course I do, I feel out of my mind most of the time but it is something I have dealt with for a
long time so I have become more comfortable with who I am.

13- Do you feel bad over being gay? 
I do at times mainly since I am not open about it. It is still a secret to basically everyone I know.
But I am more focused on my career than my social life so I just have to deal with it. Do I enjoy
being lonely all the time, of course not! Just like everyone else I wish I could go home to
someone I love, but unfortunately that is not exactly in my sight. That is more what I feel bad
about; do I feel bad not telling everyone the truth? Eh, not so much because then everyone would
be judging me based on their stereotype of what a gay male is like and that is not something I
need or want to deal with right now.

14-Since you are not openly gay, why have you chosen this path of “Silence” about it?
Well that is a simple one, my career. The field I work in you can say does not always support this
type of lifestyle if I were to actually be living in it. For the record I am not. While some people
have basic 9-5 jobs where they go home and leave their work I however am basically always
working no matter where I am. Do I consider it fun to have to be so reclusive about this, of
course not but that is how the world operates right now.

15 – What is something you would like to tell homosexuals about your homosexuality? 
I have no idea; if they are already gay I am pretty sure they know exactly what I am going
through. I am not some famous celebrity who comes out of the closet and inspires others to do
the same. Sorry but I am just a normal guy who happens to be gay, nothing really special to
throw out there.

16- Is it hard or difficult to hide who you are?
No not really, I have never had “gay stereotype traits,” that society likes to place next to every
gay male. Sorry I do not have a high pitched voice, dress in super tight clothing, and sing to
Brittney spears and lad gaga songs. So to me it is not that hard to hide who I am because most
people are oblivious to what is directly in front of them.

17 – Are there any moments when you just want to be openly gay? 
Well the only times that would happen is when I am hanging out with the very small number of
people who actually know I am gay. Granted my personality does not change because I am gay, I
do not get home and because a different person. I am just as boring when you think I am straight
as I am when I am gay hahaha!
18 – Do you think you are gay because of a bad childhood experience?
hahahaa no, I had a very happy childhood. I just laugh when people try to associate being gay
with some terrible experience as a child. I have been this way as long as I can remember, no
traumatic experiences here!
19 – Are there times you have tried to change your sexuality preferences? If yes why? 
Yes I have tried to find a girlfriend, but of course I have never found a girl I was attracted to.
Shocking right!? I mean when all my friends are dating and I am the 3rd wheel or 5th wheel on
every trip it does get old and of course I want to be in a relationship. So yes I have tried to look
for a girl but like I said it just never clicks in my brain and I still feel attracted to men.

So there you go guys! I hope that you enjoyed this today and that it really makes you think about the way we view others (homosexuals).